物以类聚，人以群分，读初中的儿子说他们学校里in general就是这样grouping的，以亚裔为主读书好的为一类，他自称为nerd group，以白人为主的体育好的white group，这一类读书往往不乍样，却很popular受欢迎，其他的成绩一般体育也一般的，归为一类，当中什么人都有。我们这儿华人不多，老印多，儿子和几个印度孩子成为好朋友，他们几个成绩都很棒，每次考完试就凑在一起比分数，看看谁考最高，要不就说“next time I’ll beat you”，他说他们年级有个小中男，only hang out with白人同学，儿子的原话是“acting like a white”，跟white group一起打球一起玩，但很明显那些白人孩子也不怎么欢迎他，亚裔群更瞧不起他，因为他为了融入，连成绩也变白了（很差）。
We used to live and work in a remote town, where there were only a few Chinese families, and I was the only Asian in the work place. We developed very close relationship with co-workers and their families. Kids played together, and we mingled often out of work.
After moving to the big city, where there are many many Chinese families, and even at work-place, a large percentage of staff are Chinese. Well, we cluster with Chinese families, and at work, talk and joke more with Chinese co-workers. We strongly feel that the school environment of big cities is much better for the emotional development of our kids.
Now we are dreaming of a China clean of smog, and we can go back there to retire - full happiness can only be achieved in the soil you grew up in. Judging by the total disappearance of Japanese immigrants in the US, fewer Chinese will seek going out to live if the economic and environmental situations improve further.
物以类聚，人以群分，读初中的儿子说他们学校里in general就是这样grouping的，以亚裔为主读书好的为一类，他自称为nerd group，以白人为主的体育好的white group，这一类读书往往不乍样，却很popular受欢迎，其他的成绩一般体育也一般的，归为一类，当中什么人都有。我们这儿华人不多，老印多，儿子和几个印度孩子成为好朋友，他们几个成绩都很棒，每次考完试就凑在一起比分数，看看谁考最高，要不就说“next time I’ll beat you”，他说他们年级有个小中男，only hang out with白人同学，儿子的原话是“acting like a white”，跟white group一起打球一起玩，但很明显那些白人孩子也不怎么欢迎他，亚裔群更瞧不起他，因为他为了融入，连成绩也变白了（很差）。
