这次降雪特别大。星期五我们去吃饭看戏，出门的时候铲过雪，车子顺利地开出，回来的时候大雪又把道路盖住，司机同志脑子走神，开过了，在前头三岔口打 U TURN ，车轮（雪胎啊）居然陷在雪里动不了，费了牛劲才转回家，到车库前又被雪堵住，开不进去，下来铲开一条道路才算开进去。我穿着皮鞋，饶是在那铲出的道路上走，还是给灌了些雪进去，即刻化了，差点冻死。
Allow mistakes, and allow them to grow in their own pace.
汉代蜜瓜 发表评论于
回复Erica_NJ的评论:
I think you are right. Next time, if the thing is not so rush, I will do what you are suggesting.
Erica_NJ 发表评论于
Ai Mi,
I don't know your daughter well, but she seems to be very talented in art. Anyhow, here is my guess:
I think your daughter's issue is not about being shy. She is not independent and need more training. You probably should have been more patient and let her do things her way to build up her confidence, even if it is not the best way. For example, when the bus was not there, don't offer suggestions. Instead, ask her how it should be handled. You can obviously make minor suggestions to improve her plan but let her take ownership of her plan. Her plan might be wrong and she would be late for school. But in the end, it is not really a big deal to be late for school for a day. If she is late, she will have to accept the consequence of her own choice and improve it next time.
If you always think for her, she won't be confident and won't be independent. She is old enough to make small decisions so let her. You are so capable and so sharp, your daughter probably does not dare to act unless instructed by you.
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回复汉代蜜瓜的评论:
that is easy: give her your recipe on dumplings. haha.
汉代蜜瓜 发表评论于
回复9斤的评论:
9494,那天说饺子不好吃，我停了一个月，这不，又跟我念叨饺子了，说她同学想念我的饺子。
就是欠收拾地说！！
9斤 发表评论于
还有，说道贤妻良母的标准，可不能让老公孩子说了算，他们是身在福中不知福。这要横向对比。密瓜绝对是良母。我儿子从11岁开始每天自己弄早餐（很简单，cereal, or toast, or frozen breakfast, he only need to microwave it), 要赶6：40的校车。我这个老妈睡到7点才起床，跟密瓜不能比。不过，我的借口是男孩要粗养：）
这次降雪特别大。星期五我们去吃饭看戏，出门的时候铲过雪，车子顺利地开出，回来的时候大雪又把道路盖住，司机同志脑子走神，开过了，在前头三岔口打 U TURN ，车轮（雪胎啊）居然陷在雪里动不了，费了牛劲才转回家，到车库前又被雪堵住，开不进去，下来铲开一条道路才算开进去。我穿着皮鞋，饶是在那铲出的道路上走，还是给灌了些雪进去，即刻化了，差点冻死。
