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Jews are excellent when it comes to ethical dilemmas, and questions concerning who is the responsible party for human slaughter.
丁女士不希望人们忘记了她的孩子。让丁女士谈她的孩子。让丁女士写一本关于她的孩子的book and help her to publish。你可以种植很多树木记住丁女士的孩子,最后,你可以捐赠建教堂外国的教堂(i.e., 印度还是真正实惠的。你可以用4000美元建造一座教堂或用1500美元build a meeting hall。)并以丁女士儿子名字命名。
我认识一个牙医失去了她在哥伦比亚university 的儿子. 她最终捐赠给在非洲建造一个图书馆,并以儿子名字命名。我认识一个family 失去了儿子, 捐资兴建一个儿童游乐地游乐场, 并以儿子名字命名。后来,他们family again 有两个孩子。This will help 丁女士to heal.
I suggest we learn from history and also have museums on 6.4 like the holocaust museums in D. C., and then have a memorial set up like the memorial for vietnam war veterans to honor the lives lost in 6.4.. If possible, attend the memorial services for the victims and their families.
柴玲可以捐个图书馆或公园,并以丁女士儿子名字命名,并且让丁儿子的坟移到比较贵的暮地。当然柴玲再以自己的方式(反对一胎制)来怀念她失去的孩子。不过要尊重其他人的grief,相信她会明白。丁女士needs comfort, not healing. Pray for her comfort, weep with her. 。最后愿死者安息公义必临。
看似是絆腳石,實際上是腳凳;看似是絆咒詛,實際上是祝福,看似是濃霧,實際上只是一杯水,而他的第一個神蹟。。把水變成酒--celerbrate.
It mean to push her down, but God will lift her up, no pain will be wasted.But she should learn how to rest in HIM, be hold and be still to know HE is in control. Jeremiah 29:11
“plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God,
we will get double from trouble. we are prisoner of hope and his grace.
怎样看待记忆,特别是痛苦的记忆。
也许最近这条”岁月“船的故事,能给我们一点启发。首先,人不能活在记忆中(Man can not live in memory)。第二,让记忆走,让自己得救(Let the memory go, let yourself be saved)。这是通过灾难的事件,我们学习到的。
另外还有一种,是《圣经》教导我们的。我觉得可以叫”怎样与自己的记忆同活“(How to live with your memory)。当作为奴隶的犹太人被神解救后,神告诉他们怎样对待自己的记忆:”善待奴隶,因为你们也曾经是为奴隶的“。当耶稣复活后,他从来没有提一句为自己报仇的话,却叫人坚固信心和爱心,去传播福音。唯有对疑心深重的Thomas,才向他展示了自己身上的伤口。这样的智慧的确是来自于神的。当初以色列人若不离开埃及,而要求上帝在埃及地为他们复仇,就不会有今日以色列民族的成就。当初复活的耶稣若不放下十字架上的痛苦和因此带来的仇恨,就不会有今日的基督教。
Jews are excellent when it comes to ethical dilemmas, and questions concerning who is the responsible party for human slaughter.