那是2003年，在我结婚之前，第一次见到贝蒂。泰迪带我去凤凰城亚利桑那州的一个24小时记忆保健中心，告诉我贝蒂有阿尔茨海默病。泰迪的父亲去世后，她一直住在这样的保健、养老的设施里。我们准备了一束花和其它小礼物。那个记忆保健中心是一个安静和漂亮的地方。贝蒂已经打扮齐正，在一间单卧室的公寓里等着我们。“妈，这是灵灵，” 泰迪介绍了我。贝蒂很愉快、和蔼，回答说：“欢迎来到家里，” 给了我一个温暖的拥抱。我向她送上鲜花，她很喜欢。
我们带着她在保健中心的庭院里散步，她很开心。泰迪告诉我贝蒂从小就喜欢走路。当护士和她的朋友走过来的时候，贝蒂向他们介绍我俩，说 “他们是我的家人，” 然后悄悄地问我：“你叫什么名字？” 我再次告诉她，她笑了笑，似乎有点儿尴尬。“我想，我还得从头学起，” 她说。我对她的勇气和努力印象极深，很难相信她实际上已经是阿尔茨海默中期的患者了。泰迪说，她的乐观精神让她在丈夫去世以后，在很长时间里能够独自生活、照顾自己。
当我们回到她的房间时，她看到了鲜花，赞叹道：“啊，又有人给我送花来了！” 泰迪后来多次对我说，妈妈是个非常随和、乐观的人，连她的病都不能破坏她的好心情，还把它变成新的享受。“啊，又有人给我送花来了！” 她反复地说了一遍又一遍，在健忘中再次感受到了快乐。
1) The Sunset on Friday, July 13, 2007
Ted, his sister Carol, brother-in-law Jim, brother Roger and I came to the club house of Carol’s residence for a family dinner. Just before we made an order, Ted's cell phone rang. Ted and I immediately stood up. While driving back toward the nursing home, Ted was silent. He seemed to look away through the window, "Ling, look at the sunset." Yes, the twilight had just given its last rays to embrace and redden the clouds. It was a beautiful evening around 7 p.m. on Friday.
Ruth, Betty’s private caregiver, told us of the last moments of Betty, which vividly depicted the last steps of her journey to the Gate of Heaven. She had a few moments of short breaths and labor. But it was followed by a smile on her radiant face, and she gave a final ‘Ah’. Ruth felt very fortunate to accompany Betty to the Gate. And we all thanked her, for she was the angel to accompany Betty for the last steps.
It was 2003, before Ted and I got married, when I met Betty for the first time. Ted took me to a 24-hour memory care center in Phoenix Arizona and told me that Betty had Alzheimer. She had been living in such facilities after Ted’s father passed away. We brought flowers and other small gifts. The memory care center was a quiet and pretty facility. We found Betty dressed up and waited for us in a one-bed room dormitory-like apartment. "Mom, this is Lingling," Ted introduced me. She was quite pleasant and replied, "Welcome to the family," and gave me a warm hug. I presented her with the flowers, and she absolutely loved it.
We took her for a short walk in the courtyard of the facility. She truly enjoyed it. Ted told me before that Betty loved walking from childhood. When nurses and her friends walked by, she introduced us to them, "They are my family." She then quietly asked me, "What’s your name?" After I told her again, she smiled and appeared to be a little embarrassed. "I guess I have to learn it again," she said. I was so impressed by her encouragement and brevity. It was hard for me to believe that she was actually already into mid-term of Alzheimer. Her spirit was high and kept her going after Ted’s father passed away.
When we got back to her room, she saw the flowers and acclaimed, "Ah, somebody sent me flowers!" Ted later said it to me many times that Mom was very gracious and optimistic, even her sickness could not destroy her spirit but helped turn it into new enjoyment. "Ah, somebody sent me flowers!" She said this repeatedly, experiencing the joy again in her forgetfulness.